Debunking Love Triangles: A Peek Into The Love Life of Chris Brown

He had everybody in the office screaming bout how they just turned sixteen.  Yet, I was the youngest in my office, and even I wasn't close enough to sixteen to sing about it.  Hell was wrong with these people!  And who was this dude that they played non stop between John Legend, Mariah Carey and Alicia Keys!  I went home determined to figure out who exactly was Chris Brown.  And that I did!


Chris Brown has since become one of my all time favorite artists; amassing a music catalog that's nothing less than impressive, by even the harshest standards. A complete entertainer, who's comparison to the legendary Michael Jackson, speaks not only of his caliber of dance, but also of his future as music royalty. Yet, as with many future kings, there exist a love dilemma with Chris Brown.  Some may even refer to it as a Love Triangle.  The goal of this blog post is to get to the bottom of that "triangle".  And if at all possible, see all sides clearly.




In school, I did HORRIBLE in math.  In fact, the only math I did well enough in to even speak on, was Geometry.  And the one thing I can remember from geometry class, was that there are 3 types of triangles: 
Equilateral Triangle: 3 Equal Sides; Isosceles Triangle: 2 Equal Sides; Scalene: 0 Equal Sides. If I had to say love was triangular, I would have to compare it to the Scalene Triangle; for it has NO equal sides.

Who does Chris Brown love romantically.  Our question of the hour!!  I looked at an old interview of Chris Brown's Mom, where she spoke of her son's generosity and love for family.  She said that he was just a naturally loving kid that just wants to take care of everybody. It was a pretty good interview, too.  Learned a lot of things.  And that leads me into my next segment.  Is Chris Brown in love, or just loving.

After Rihanna publicly stated that she hadn't been on a date in years, the news media went wild!!  Chris then invited her out to his Queeby business party, where they spent some pretty intimate time together away from the larger crowd. Pretty debonair!!  


And It's also rumored that he still financially supports former girlfriend, Karrucche. Well, Breezy sounds pretty loving...but is he in love! For a man to be in love, he must see what he loves as HIMSELF!!  And this is not a small task.  But I can see Chris Brown possibly loving one of these girls, one day, in the future.

I finally saw the ex girlfriend Karrueche, up close. And she's freaking GORGEOUS!!  HUGE FUTURE!!  Only issue with Karrueche, is that she hasn't stepped into her future yet.  I can actually see her becoming a huge model and even doing television.  Maybe even working with Shaunie Oneal one day.  You never know.  But what I do know for sure, is that love is easier when a girl hasn't stepped into her full self.  In order for Chris Brown to return what she is giving spiritually, it would have to come from the fully developed Karrueche Tran.  And that girl is coming, but she would have to be discovered BEFORE the inner side of love can show up in that union.

Rihanna has been through some things.  In fact, she's been through the fire and stood on the clouds, and still shouts from the sky, " I Love You!".  But how can she get the inner return to her love, from Chris Brown.  As stated earlier, in order for a man to love a woman, he must see that woman as himself.  So what must Rihanna do!  Gorgeous, super talented, super successful, and a straight BOSS on many levels; yet the inner spirit of Chris Brown doesn't see her as HIMSELF just yet.  What could be the problem.  

 When a man speaks:
Some of his words are brain, and some are heart based.  In order for a woman to duplicate a man's heart, she must take in his words that are heart based.  But sometimes women have barriers to hearing a man's heart.  Not sure what's going on between Chris Brown and Rihanna, but if she is able to duplicate his heart, and they come together as ONE, they 
stand the chance of becoming a couple that's LEGENDARY!!

   

Snow Bunnies In Desert Storms: The War On Loving Realistically!!

When my nephew was in high school, he dated this really pretty dark skinned girl named, Shaqueeda. I mean, they went EVERY WHERE together; and I do mean, every where!  If you saw him, you saw her. PERIOD!!  He was just head over heels for this girl, and everybody knew it, too.  But one day, he came to the crib talking bout how he only liked white girls.  And Lord knows I don't have a problem with white girls, except for the fact that, my nephew didn't know any!! 

The earlier one exposes a knife to the back, the better chance one has of preventing that knife from doing more damage.  And if one allows a knife to stay in their back, the more likely they will experience severer injury, as they move their feet.

After asking around, I eventually discovered that my nephew was told by his little homies, that his girl was giving some "neck" round the schoolhouse. I laughed it off, because I knew Queeda and she didn't appear to be wild like that. But comes to find out, she admitted to the rumors without even putting up an argument or denial. And this crushed my nephew, who had already paid his prom fee. How could he be so stupid, he wanted to know. His girl of two years; the one he loved; and the one whom he was taking to prom, was an undercover freak. And all his homies knew. How could he live this down!

When I discovered everything that transpired, I then knew why my nephew never wanted to mess with black girls again.  I understood his pain.  I would be embarrassed as hell, too.  But I had to make sure he knew that personalities and skin types have no association.  Promising to never talk to another black girl IN LIFE, wouldn't solve his problems. However, making a decision to get to know someone before giving his heart away, would.

Today, nephew is doing well at Hampton University, and dates a beautiful white girl from Richmond, Va.  But last month he dated a beautiful black girl from Williamsburg, Va.  And next week, he'll probably date a bad Puerto Rican from West Blip Jip!! Bottom line:  Today, he doesn't have an emotional injury, because I forced him to expose the knife.  If we forced all of our kids to love realistically, no telling how happy our world would grow to be.

Rx
Dr.Love



                                                                                                        

Can She Upgrade Me: Man's Only Question on Love & Marriage!!

Seems like every girl and her sister, wants to be married these days.  And fellas notice the thirst out there.  But the question every man must ask himself is; can she upgrade me.  Unlike women, men look for very practical signs for needing to marry.  And having three kids together, don't always equal a good enough reason for tying the knot.  Hopefully, in this posting, we can get to the bottom of the upgrade relationship principle.

Eve caused Adam to be evicted from his home; fired from his job; and strain the relationship he had with the only family he knew.  Yet the Good book never speaks of Adam talking bad about Eve or having any type of evil anger towards her.  Why, you ask.  Maybe it's because Adam knew Eve's whole point of getting him to eat that forbidden fruit, was to upgrade him.  And as he left the garden that he was evicted from, it was admitted by God, that Adam was now an equal with Him.  Upgrades are important!

Ever since Beyonce dropped the "Upgrade U" track, dudes have been searching high and low for reasons to marry longtime girlfriends; and rightfully so.  Any dude with half a brain can struggle alone.  What's the point of matrimony.  Can she bring something to the table that will make him better; can she bring something to the table that will aid him in completing his purpose in life.  Honestly, how can a possible marriage benefit a man's life.  The answer to that, is very important to all men.

Contrary to popular opinion, if Johnny has a table with four chairs already, meeting a girl with the same won't be enough motivation for Johnny to marry.  Now, if said girl had a table cloth and an ability to decorate Johnny's table, and make it pretty; then Johnny might consider some things!!  Every smart Johnny knows that deals are made at the table.  And when guests see the table, they see the man behind the table!

 We must never forget that purpose is a man's meal of life, and partnership is a drink to help him digest that meal.  ANY TIME a man finds a woman that causes him to regurgitate the portion of meal he has already swallowed, he must release her.  But when he finds that one who taste good with his meal, AND helps his meal stay down, you better believe he will keep her. For she's not any ole gal.  That right there is an UPGRADE!

Rx.
Doctor Love

Seasoned Lovers: Surviving the Salt of Hollywood & Pepper of Celebrity!!

A successful black couple, that lasts longer than five years, is rare.  A successful black couple, that lasts longer than five years, in Hollywood, is really rare.  And the successful marriage, that lasts longer than five years in Hollywood, is extremely rare.  But that successful BLACK marriage, which lasts longer than ten years in Hollywood, is much too rare to not highlight.  Today, I gotta pay homage to some seasoned lovers.  And hopefully, formulate a good guess 'timation on how their relationships survived the salt & pepper of the lifestyle, this long. 

  One thing I can see from jump: All of the women listed here, use their husbands last name professionally.  Not sure how important that is, but some might find that interesting for professional women of Hollywood.  And the other similarity with all of the couples listed, is that all have more than one child together. Honestly, outside of the fact that every veteran couple listed here, are fairly good friends, their longevity is really relationship based.

Vanessa Bell Calloway is quickly approaching 25 years of marriage to her successful husband, Dr. Anthony Calloway. Yes, I know; hard to imagine, but our Coming to America darling is growing up!(tear, tear) Outside of the fact that he's a super successful Hollywood anesthesiologist, and they have two beautiful (GORGEOUS!!) daughters in college, this sexy couple never over-shares the personals of their relationship.  Maybe that's the key to their longevity. 
You never know!

Holly Robinson Peete is another superstar, who's DOB might make one DOA!!  Gorgeous!!  But unlike the Calloway's, she and retired NFL quarterback, Rodney Peete, share their world with the...WORLD!!  Holly and Rodney Peete are like America's real life TV Mom and Dad.  They openly share their family's triumphs and also their trials.  And their charities are one of the most popular throughout the world.  Maybe sharing their experiences are the key to their relationship longevity.  You never know!

Duane and Tisha Campbell- Martin have been the subject of the world's greatest relationship rumor mill since the start of their union.  But can you blame the world, though. They're a sexy couple.  He's been a little prettyboi since he started in the acting game, and every dude and his brotha wanted them some Tisha Campbell, since "School Daze" and "House Party". So the rumors are understandable. Key to their relationship longevity, though...not sure.  Maybe it's the fact that they're also business partners in many ventures.  And the additional fact that their both comedians can't hurt, either.  But you never know what can be that superglue in another's relationship.  Could be something big, small, or personal.  You never know!

Jada and Will Smith, are by far, the poster children for Black Love.  Even though they've been married a shorter period than every couple listed, their 15 year marriage sparked a new flame of possibilities for young black Hollywood.  Their names have been listed in countless songs, ads, TV shows and movies, as a STANDARD to reach in relationship bliss.  Not sure what their key to longevity is, though.  Just like with the Martins, their beauty and success attracts many rumors.  I will say, however, that both Jada and Will have a love for music.  That could be a plus.  And the fact that their children are coming of age superstars who need the guidance of both industry parents, may help as well.  But you never know, for real. 



And honestly, with any successful couple, famous or otherwise; the popular saying stands true:  Standards are an illusion; for what's standard for the spider, is chaos for the fly!  Remember that!

Rx.
Dr.Love

Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee:  The Black Hollywood STANDARD

Branding Love: The Business of Making Love NOT War!!

How did the notorious "King of The South", become the world's next "Cliff Huxtable".  Inquiring minds want to know.  Really!  Was it a spur of the moment kind of thing, or did the decision to take a family to reality TV have something to do with being connected to a woman who knew the insides of her partner; even better than the more powerful media.  I'll take the latter for 500, Alex!

I've always been a fan of Tiny.  Not just as one of the greatest singers and song writers to grace the earth; but also as the poster chick for Ride Or Die relationship commitment.  Through thick and thin she stood beside her partner, and honest to God, PRODUCED the image of what we see today.




As much as I pride myself on knowing music history, only recently learned that T.I's real name is "Cliff".  I think knowing the inner Cliff behind the title, is what motivated Tiny to PRODUCE the brand of love we see today, on Family Hustle.

Vision is wonderful.  And love is divine.  But a woman with a vision of love is HARRRD to find!  Big ups to Tiny for sticking with her vision for love!

Rx/ Doctor Love

                                         
 

Stroking Blue Checks: The Art of Paying The Price for Love and Celebrity!

Love is HARD.  In fact, love is harder for a man to obtain these days than ever before. PERIOD!! Not "love" as we think it to be, but actual LOVE, as it was designed to be. Yea, THAT love is pretty hard to obtain, nowadays.  And given the new financial dynamics of the "average black couple", THAT love may become a thing of the past.  My goal in blogging is to share the principles of, and barriers to, GENUINE LOVE.  Hopefully, it may help someone.

He's a BALLER; She's a Baller.  He's a celebrity; She's a celebrity. He got a busy schedule; She got a busy schedule. He got fans; She got them, too!  Can a celebrity ever find love with another celebrity.  Can a baller ever find love with another baller.  Can the famous be famously in love.  Can the powerful meet the requirements of love, together.  All of these are my questions of the hour!!

Genuine Love, no matter how much money one has, REQUIRES the same:

A woman duplicating a man's heart, by taking in his heart words.  But that can be a long (and sometimes, never ending) process if the woman does not hold the ability to see what is black and what is red; for only the red words come from a man's heart.  But without dying to self, a woman will never gain the ability to  hear the difference in black and red words from her man's mouth.  And what woman would do ALL OF THAT for an EQUAL!!

Laying down one's life is easy to the woman who has no life; but to the woman who's larger than life, it can prove difficult.  Sad part is that REAL LOVE cannot take place until a woman duplicates her man's heart.  For no man can love a woman; a man can only love HIMSELF.  The woman who duplicates her man's heart earns his love, and becomes HIM in the spirit realm.  And together, they become ONE.  And THAT woman, who is ONE with her dude, can be more influential to him than even, God Himself!!

Love costs!!  And blue checks work just like white ones when it comes to paying the price!  Believe THAT!!

Rx.  Dr.Love

Another Round: The Fight For Love

On the verge of Perfected love.  But what is Perfect love:

Perfect love is when two people experience love the way it was designed.  For a woman, it equates to a dying to join a man as ONE in the spirit realm.  For a man, it equals an acceptance of a dead woman into his life, to speak for his INSIDES.

Perfect Love = Death!!  Death of a man's control of the mic in the relationship; Death of a woman's representing only herself.  And this Death is no homicide (Forced Move) ; this death is a suicide (Individual DECISION).

Even though you've arrived here in a strange, roundabout manner; bottom line: YOU'RE HERE!! At this point, each party in the relationship holds the ability to DESTROY the other.  If love calls you back together, knowing the risks; that same love has the power, to keep you forever in Bliss!

Don't sleep on the power of love...  for THAT power NEVER sleeps, nor slumber!


/Rx

Be blessed

Dr.Love