911 Emergency... I Love a Johnny Who Don't Love Me!

My friend Samantha says that she has an emergency, and needs to talk!  Her relationship with her boyfriend John of 11 months, is going nowhere.  Within the past 11 month period, Samantha has put in all of the work, including love.  And STILL John doesn't return her love.  What the hell is wrong with this dude?  Samantha wants to know!

I LAUGH when women tell me, they love a man who doesn't love them. I LAUGH even harder when those same women tell me, that the man who isn't returning their love resides within their home.  Sorry ladies, but that's NOT POSSIBLE!!

Hate to be the one to crack the cherry on the subject, but Love is not that simple!  Even though love is individual, there is still a process (protocol) to obtaining it for another person.  And obtaining love for another has three STEPS:  1.Meet.  2. Know.  3.Decide.  And even though these steps appear small individually, they are actually very difficult to obtain collectively.

According to Samantha, she met John eleven months ago; got to know him well enough for love to be an option; then made a decision to love him.  Now she's in love?  She really thinks it's that simple? Wow!!

Meeting someone is very simple; you can meet people just about anywhere these days. As long as man has an ability to be lost, that same man also has the ability to be found.  And you can find a man ANYWHERE!  So meeting another is not difficult.  The process to love gets tricky at the knowing stage.  I say tricky because knowing requires two parties.

If the one who desires to know another seeks to know, it means nothing if the one who is sought out refuses to allow himself the ability to be known.  The process of knowing another is a difficult one because it involves dealing with hurts and pains.  I know women who have been in relationships for two and three years, who know absolutely nothing about the guy they "supposedly" love.  They know nothing because the one they're attempting to know isn't allowing himself to be known.  Love REQUIRES knowing another, and Knowing REQUIRES permission from the desired.

Even though love is an individual process that allows an individual to love another who may not love them, it STILL requires that the individual know another.  Love is spiritual!  You can't love another until you get their permission, which is given by the revealing of their heart.  If a man reveals his heart to a woman, that woman then has permission to continue in the process to loving that man.  And even if the man doesn't return her love, she still will have the ability to make a DECISION to love the man based on her ability to get him to allow himself to be known.

Once a woman makes it through the process of loving a man, she experiences the POWER of love.  And even though the man may not have started the process to loving her, she now has the POWER to get him to. Her love for him will CHANGE HER WORDS!  And her WORDS to him will CHANGE HIS HEART!

The emergency my friend Samantha really has is that "the Like" she has for Johnny isn't the Love that she thought it was.  Love is a transforming POWER!  If what you love isn't transformed, you don't really LOVE it!

Be blessed!

Dr. Love